Today, I  walked into Target and grabbed a sweet peppermint mocha from Starbucks. I sat down inside, overlooking the scenery of cars, people and the parking lot. I had time to work on one of my blogs, so I began typing away. After sometime, I glanced up as something caught my eye. A car pulls up to the front of the Target. A woman approximately in her upper fifties had driven her car up on the curb and then parked it. She put on her four way flashers and then ditched the car. I tried to give her the benefit of a doubt that maybe she was enraged by the store and was seeking to talk to management. I figured that maybe she was trying to make a statement with her parking job. However, my eyes had followed the woman to the line of the Starbucks.


I grabbed my stuff and as I was walking towards the exit, I took a good look at this woman. I honestly didn’t want to judge her or dislike her, but I just couldn’t help my thoughts. I left the store mind boggled at what I just witnessed. I sat in my car waiting for her to return through my driver side mirror. During this time of silence, my mind ran wild. My initial thought was to wonder why she felt so entitled. I watched so many people with obvious disabilities walk long distances from their rightfully parked cars. I thought about the men and woman who have served our country in our military who deserve a front row parking such as that. Many people want to degrade the young people born in the millennial generation for their disrespect and lack of responsibility. However, I watched a young couple walk by this woman’s car in disgust of her lack of respect.


Which leads me to my main thoughts: Does she have children? Has she set many examples such as these? What kind of people did her children grow up to be like? It made me think of my son. Have I done anything that set the wrong example? Maybe I did something that wasn’t as obvious to be wrong, but my son noticed it.We have to be careful as our children are constantly watching as we are the ones that they truly learn from. We have to be more mindful about the things that we do. That’s why I hold doors for others, donate money into the Salvation Army kettles during the holidays, return shopping carts instead of ditching them between cars and more. I try to be aware of what I am doing, even when my son isn’t around, because I want to live the example. I can only hope that I don’t slip in missing important steps to teaching greatness. Having a child makes me not only want to become a better mother, but a better person in general. I want to become the example that my son needs in life. I will strive to exceed in my own life in order to encourage his.

As for the woman that left her car on the curb for 35 minutes, she probably isn’t a bad person at all. She’s probably a very positive person that many people cherish and look up to. Maybe she’s just having a bad day, kind of like the movie Falling Down. Maybe she was hangry for a Latte and a gingerbread loaf. Whatever the case may be, the example I must set starts with me and the way I give compassion to others. So, I watched her return to her car, she looked more relaxed and collected as she was holding her coffee. I’m sure she felt silly afterwards, I know I did after initially thinking so negatively toward her. 




Written by J. Marie

Founder/Owner, Perfectly Imperfect Parents - Single Mom . Blogger . Photographer . Bar Marketing Manager and Bartender . Artist of Frame Design . Part-Time Student to become a Licensed Mental Health Counselor.


  1. Love this story. I must admit, it drives me nuts when people don’t put back the shopping carts. πŸ™‚ As for the whole scenario, I don’t know if I wold’ve reacted like you did. Perhaps, if my kids were with me. Or, maybe I would’ve talked myself through like you did. Nevertheless, your experience is great remindeer not to judge…because, like you said…we are always being watched. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. I’m glad you enjoyed my experience! Sometimes our minds are wired to react instinctly in a negative way. Sometimes we need to stop and think it through with a compassionate mind. Thanks for your response!

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